Ongelofelijk wat deze vrouw doet. Beth Stelling is een beroemde Amerikaanse comédienne die deze zomer flink mishandeld werd door haar toenmalige vriend. In één instagram post vertelt ze het hele verhaal – van de vrouw met de blauwe plekken en de vrouw die daarna vrolijk op het podium staat.
Maandagmiddag postte Beth Stelling 4 foto’s van zichzelf op Instagram. Drie waarom haar blauwe plekken te zien en de vierde waarbij ze weer vrolijk op het podium staat. “Ik ben alle vier die vrouwen,” schrijft ze. “Ik heb een geweldig jaar gehad, en daar wil ik graag over vertellen, maar er zat ook een schaduwzijde aan.”
Deze zomer beëindigde ze haar relatie met de man die haar dit aandeed. “het is heel gênant. Ik voel me stom. Nadat hij me verbaal en fysiek had mishandeld, ben ik nog twee maanden langer met hem samen geweest. Het is niet eenvoudig.”
Op Instagram krijgt ze nu enorm veel steunbetuigingen. Chapeau Beth! Het vereist veel moed om hiermee naar buiten e treden.
Same girl in all of these photos (me). I've had an amazing year and you've seen the highlights here, so these photos are an uncommon thing to share but not an uncommon issue. You may be weirded out but do read on. I have a point. There are many reasons not to make an abusive relationship public, mostly fear. Scared of what people will think, scared it makes me look weak or unprofessional. When I broke up with my ex this summer, it wasn't because I didn't love him, it was because of this. And I absolutely relapsed and contacted him with things I shouldn’t have, but there are no “best practices” with this. When friends or comics ask why we broke up it's not easy or comfortable to reply; it doesn't seem like the appropriate thing to say at a stand-up show, a party or a wedding. It's embarrassing. I feel stupid. After being verbally, physically abused and raped, I dated him for two more months. It's not simple. After I broke up with him he said, "You're very open and honest in your stand-up, and I just ask that you consider me when you talk about your ex because everyone knows who you're talking about." And I abided. I wrote vague jokes because we both live in L.A. and I didn't want to hurt him, start a war, press charges, be interrogated or harassed by him or his friends and family. I wanted to move on and forget because I didn’t understand. I don't want revenge or to hurt him now, but it's unhealthy to keep this inside because my stand-up is pulled directly from my life. It's how I make my living. My personal is my professional. That is how I've always been; I make dark, funny. So now I'm allowing this to be part of my story. It's not my only story, so please don't let it be. If you live in L.A., you've already started to hear my jokes about this and I ask you to have the courage to listen and accept it because I’m trying. Already since talking about this onstage, many women have come to me after shows asking me to keep doing it. Men have shown their solidarity. An ex-girlfriend of this ex-boyfriend came to me and shared that she experienced the same fate. Then there was another and another (men and women) who shared other injustices at his hand that..